Busy but not fulfilled? This may be why
Find Your True North
"Live your life by a compass, not a clock." ~Stephen Covey. This is such an important distinction - you want to focus on where you are going, not on how much time you have. Once you decide where you are and where you want to go, the path becomes clearer and your actions will actually get you somewhere. If you keep worrying about what can go wrong or not having enough time to "do it all", you will stay busy, but that busy-ness won't necessarily bring you joy, fulfillment, or success. You must create and use your personal compass. But how?
You Are Not Lost
Your inner self knows where it is meant to go. Your outer self may be aligned with that, or taking as many detours as possible.
If you want to be successful and fulfilled in your life and career, you have to consistently have a good sense of 1) where you are, and 2) where you want to go.
It doesn't have to be a detailed map - but a compass with a true north.
What is your true north?
These are your values, your must-haves. When you are going in the direction of YOUR true north, you are doing what you truly enjoy and value and not just what pleases others.
For me, my core values are connection, personal fulfillment, financial security, and making a positive impact. The things that are bring me the most joy are: living a healthy, active lifestyle spending time in nature, travel and experiences with my family, humor, giving back in a tangible way, and meaningful, connected relationships. When I am working towards these things, I am pointing to my true north.
If I start to feel lost, disconnected, or unsure of myself, I go back to these things and see where I went astray. Life is always twisting and turning, and it can be easy to lose your way.
If you aren't clear on what your true north is, spend time journaling, meditating, or talking about what makes you intrinsically happy. This process can take time, so let it. But be diligent about it.
If you are having a hard time, I offer a Life Vision Intensive that will take you through a core values exercise and together we will determine YOUR definition of a successful, fulfilling life. Schedule or inquire HERE.
The Life Vision process will help clarify where you want to point your compass and how to ensure you continue to move ahead in the right direction.
Knowing where you want to go is the only way to get there. But knowing where you are right now is another important piece of this process.
Be honest with yourself on where you are.
Maybe you are the best at a certain skill at work, you want to be promoted, you've earned it, but they aren't giving it to you, so it is time to move on. But maybe you are the best at a certain skill but also need development in another skill that they are looking for before being promoted.
It is important to assess where you are realistically, and without judgment. It is ok if you still need to develop yourself in an area - we all need to develop in something! It is also ok if you have outgrown where you are and you are ready to move on.
You have choices. You can use your power of choice to move in ANY direction. They key is to use your power to move TOWARDS the life you want.
I have seen clients in many different stages of determining their Life Vision (compass), and it is always amazing how much of their power they give away to others, most times subconsciously.
So many people do what (they think) is expected of them by their family, friends, colleagues, or society. They work hard to meet so many expectations without ever deciding if they agree with those expectations in the first place.
They are working hard but still feeling unfulfilled, restless, and exhausted.
This is a big world. There is a lot of noise and catastrophic headlines to keep us in fear. There are literally millions of choices you can make and millions of directions you can go in. It is ok to circle and explore a bit.
But don't spend your life constantly moving without getting any closer to fulfillment, joy, and success. Move freely, but also in the direction of your dreams.
This is an important distinction - Move towards your dreams, not just away from your fears.
Running from fear won't necessarily get you where you want to go. Running towards your True North will.
Find your true north, know where you are, and use your compass (your Life Vision) as your guide.
Life is too short to move towards something that doesn't fulfill you.
"Live your life by a compass, not a clock." ~Stephen Covey
Cheers to defining your true north,
Sharon
Define Your True North
Invest in figuring out who you are and what you want in your relationships, your career, your family, your finances, and your community. Invest in YOU.
I've helped so many women clarify their goals and achieve them with more joy and less stress - even in the midst of existential crisis and uncertainty.
It's your turn.
Schedule a free call today to explore how to feel better. Click HERE.
My most in-demand offerings are as follows:
Life Vision Intensive - A 2-hour discovery session to define what a successful and fulfilling life means for YOU. Includes your Life Vision document, a core values exercise, and a 1-hour finalization call. Investment = $399
Coaching Package - Almost a full year of support! Twelve 1-hour sessions approx. every 3 weeks to provide the encouragement, accountability and support to help you define and reach your goals with more joy and less stress. Includes the Life Vision session for free! Investment = $3,300
Life is too short to spend it feeling stressed, overwhelmed and unsatisfied. I've helped so many improve their happiness, well-being, and success because they chose to schedule a call and take one step towards the life of their dreams. I can help you too.
